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Situation #2 : Love Often Comes Softly
This next featured couple that I'll be talking about is living proof that True Love exists and it'll last as long as you want it to, as long as you do it right.
She was the popular yet sweet one. He was the quiet admirer. Both were good friends, as in genuine friends. The type of friend you'd call 4 AM in the morning if you need help or the one that you'll know won't leave you out to dry in dire situations. He had feelings for her, but she had no clue. Despite his strong affections for her, he decided to hold off his confession for her until he graduated from his studies. [Note: Priorities]
They were both students abroad at the time so while he waits for Graduation Day, he had to play the role of the best guy friend that lifts her back up whenever she was left devastated by other men. Everytime a guy breaks her heart into pieces, he will be the one she called and ask for advice and comfort. He tells her often that there will be someone better whilst secretly hoping that the said someone will be him someday.
Graduation Day came and he invited her to attend. She recently going through a giant hurdle in her life then, so she refused; saying that she'll meet up with him after. But for the first time in years of being friends, he demanded her presence there. Curious as to why the sudden change in attitude she attended anyways. He proposed. Nothing romantic, he proposed her from behind a cushion in fact.
At first she was going to promptly reply "No". It was at the tip of her tongue but it never came out. She thought about it. He was a good man. Not much of a looker, but kind and sweet. He also proved to be a good son by sending money monthly to his father in his hometown without fail. He was also a good Muslim and a good friend. But she just didn't feel anything for him in that way.
Her heart was telling her no, but somehow her head is telling her that he'd make the perfect husband. And plus noticing his ears all beet red just like the cushion he held in front of his face as he said those words made her realize that this wasn't an easy task for him to do. He was way out of his comfort zone that his comfort zone was practically no longer visible to him. So she told him that they'll try dating first, if they manage to initiate sparks in the course of the time they were dating, she'd marry him.
Today, 22 years and more than a dozen children later, they're still going strong. He still buys her a bouquet of roses and customary chocolates every Valentines. She still irons his clothes and gaze at him with genuine feelings. I'm not going to say that they ended 'Happily Ever After' since that does not exist in relationships. They do fight once in a while, but when they do they learn from them and emerge stronger than they were before. Anyways, a relationship without conflicts would mean something is seriously wrong there.
Things I learned From this Couple:
1. Infatuation doesn't have to happen first for a relationship to work. Sometimes using your head more than your heart is better. That's not to say you don't need your heart. Feelings like empathy or intuitions are not something your head can produce. Finding a balance between your mind and your heart is the right way of doing it. Moderation in everything.
2. The price of Delay Gratification. Sometimes when you pay up now, Life rewards you 10 times more later.
3. A good person will make a good spouse. When choosing a partner, take into consideration of how he treats others other than you. If he's courting you, he's sure to be sweet and nice, but he cannot hide his true nature with his habits and others.
*eats popcorn and nods in agreement*
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